How to Tell if Someone Doesn't Like You
10 subtle signs someone doesn't like you
When it comes to forming new relationships or friendship, people usually base their first impression off of how the other person makes them feel. If they're nice to you, you start to believe that this could be something long lasting and if they're not, you're often left wondering just why they weren't.
Though you can sometimes walk away not knowing that a person isn't a fan of you, it is common knowledge that people crossing their arms while speaking to you or looking elsewhere when doing the same are ways to know that your hopeful new relationships isn't going far.
According to international consultant, speaker, host, and best-selling author Ali Craig , however, there are plenty of indicators that someone may not be fond of you the way you are of them.
"Believe it or not, the distance someone keeps from you, whether or not their arms are crossed, lack of eye contact, forced smiles and other nonverbal behaviors can and sometimes are indicators as to whether or not someone likes you," she said. "This is not always the case, however, and just like any rule, there are always exceptions. But many times, if people are displaying two, three or four of the signs listed below, there's a good chance they might consider you a foe versus friend."
Although creating new bonds are often beneficial, here are 10 ways to know that your efforts to form a new relationship won't go the way you expected.
They distance themselves from you.
When you're not interested in being around or talking to someone, distancing yourself — whether purposely or subconsciously — is usually what happens first.
"As Americans we have very established rules when it comes to our personal space," said Craig. "Typically the closer someone gets to you physically, the more comfortable they feel with you and around you. Likewise, the more distance an individual keeps between you and them says a lot, too. People who like each other generally don't have problems being in close physical proximity to each other. If you dislike someone, however, you are less likely to position yourself very close to them. You'll keep a "safe" amount of distance between the two of you."
Their arms are always crossed around you.
One of the biggest signs that someone may not be too fond of you is when they cross their arms in from of you. And, it happens more than you may think.
" Crossing arms can be a sign that someone is closed off or not wanting to receive what you are giving to them," Craig told INSIDER. "Whereas arms that are open or placed in a non-closed off position says that you are 'open' to receiving what they are giving."
Everything seems forced.
Everyone knows that the best friendships and relationships are the ones that are genuine. If any situation you're in or conversation that you're having feels forced, then that's a telltale sign that the person there may not like you.
" We've all been the recipient of a forced or phony smile or laugh at some time or another," Craig said. "This is another key indicator that someone is simply going through the motions and is not wanting to 'connect' with you."
Their feet are pointed away from you.
According to body language expert and author of " The Human Whisperer: Mastering The Art of Understanding, Connecting With, and Influencing Others " Steven Keyl , there are more signs than just lack of eye contact and the crossing of arms. Things can get a little deeper than that to prove that someone dislikes you.
"Look at their feet to see where they are pointed. Feet will always point away from an undesired object," Keyl told INSIDER. "If they are not interested in our conversation, their feet will shift away from us. Their feet may also point toward other people in the room whose conversation they would prefer, or perhaps they will just align with the nearest exit!"
Likewise, their torsos are pointed away from you.
Just like Keyl said that someone's feet pointing away from you is a sign, so is noticing that their midsection is, too.
"We expose our torsos to those who make us feel good, but will immediately turn to the side when someone we dislike approaches," Keyl said. "In fact, we use the descriptive phrase of a shunning, 'turning our back' on someone, to describe negativity toward that person. As with the feet, watching the torsos of people in a group will give a good indicator who has negative or positive feelings for us."
They are constantly checking the time.
Everyone is in a rush nowadays and will commonly use busyness as an excuse to consistently check their phones. According to Lori Bizzoco — relationship expert and founder of CupidsPulse.com — however, this is also a indicator that someone may be uninterested in you.
"Not only is constantly looking at your watch a sign of dislike, it is also a sign of disrespect," she said. "If someone keeps checking the time while you are together, they may be bored by you or counting down the minutes until they don't have to see you anymore."
Simply put, they appear closed off.
Although it may sound simple enough, dating and relationship expert at the first-date site WhatsYourPrice.com , Heather Ebert, told INSIDER that nonverbal behaviors should be paid attention to more.
"We want to be as far away from the people we don't like, but that's not always an option in social or professional settings," she said. "So, the next best thing is to use your body to guard yourself from them. Things like crossing arms or leaning away are nonverbal behaviors that indicate a person is uncomfortable and putting a wall up."
Their facial expressions say it all.
Being standoffish may be a well-known sign that someone dislikes you, but Allison Matulli — author and executive director of Legal Kid, Inc . — told INSIDER that you should be paying attention to facial expressions, too.
"The side duck-lip stretch is a good indicator that someone dislikes you," Matulli said. "This is where the human lips are extended to their physical max to one side of the face while the nose hangs over touching, and thus, sniffing the skin directly below it as if it has been knocked down by a fowl aroma. Teens whip this out as a natural go-to when something or someone is just (as they say) 'ain't right.' And adults do it, too."
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How to Tell if Someone Doesn't Like You
Source: https://www.insider.com/body-language-signs-that-someone-doesnt-like-you-2018-6